Month: July 2021

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There are a flood of men that have been raised with either no or a lack of masculine role models. I was raised to feel loved by both my mother and father however, my father did not teach me the qualities of being a man.

I constantly try to reassure my father that he did the best he could for who he was at the time. My marriage ended in divorce because of not learning the skills of being a man however, instead of making the excuses and blaming my parents it is my responsibility to learn the skills of being a man.

This is a generational problem, my grand father abandoned his wife and 8 kids including my father. However, my father did not have a masculine roll model to learn how to be a man.

Raising a child is a two parent job balancing the nurturing female qualities with the leadership of the male.

Many men have grown up without a father however, Even if you have both parents your father, or perhaps grand father was raised without a positive male role model.  This can impact your manliness.

Many women who were also raised without a masculine role model feel they don’t need a man and take on masculine responsibilities.

However, If she is in a relationship with someone that is not a masculine role model she will start nitpicking, become irritable, less interested in sex,sarcastic, unappreciative of all the things you do, tell you what to do and or how to do it, less fun to be around, and become emotionally abusive. 

Many men do not understand how dangerous of a place the world is for a woman. Your average man can over power even the toughest woman.

There have been studies that have shown from the age of 18-23 the average attractive woman has been hit on around 7,500-10,500 depending on the size of the city.

At its core a woman is looking for a man that can lead her that she can fully give herself to.

If you can’t lead her you may find yourself scrambling to please her, suppress your feeling to avoid making her mad, hesitant to initiate sex, use work, internet, videos games, or certain escapes to avoid spending time with her, asking her permission to spend time with others, or doing things you enjoy, deferring decisions to her in hopes that will make her happy, jokingly ( but passive aggressively referring to her as the boss, feel nothing you do will make her happy, longing for me excitement in the relationship.

When men are raised without a father, or have a nurturing father who plays the role of a second mom they lack the ability to lead their families. However, once you start taking on this leadership role your woman will relax into your leadership and revert back into the woman you remember.

Many men believe she should just start making these changes that will make both of your lives better. You can rant, rave, and complain how unfair it is or you can give in and start living by the rules nature intended us to live because she needs to feel led for her to feel loved. if you want to win you have to start by playing the role of the game and become a masculine role model. 

Another problem is that the media wants us to believe that men and women are the same. Dr. Helen Fisher author of the book why him, why her says that men and women are so different from each other they should not even be considered the same species.

We are complements of each other but we bring different things to the relationship.