The more you lead, the more she knows you have things handled and she can relax. The more she feels safe. And the more she trusts you. It is from this place that she opens her heart and body to you. It is from this place where you get her smile and playfulness where you get her respect, support, and adoration.
If you are not fulfilling this role, she will be fantasizing about other men who can.
The more passive you are, the more she needs to go into her masculine to find solutions. Is she capable of find solutions and taking care of things on her own? Yes, will you tell yourself that you have enough to worry about and that she’s a big girl and can handle these issues? Probably! Will this lead to a stressed out, worried wife? Absolutely 100%
Her nagging can make you feel emasculated however, it is her nagging that gives you hope because it is her nagging that shows sh still has faith in you
Many men today who grew up without masculine role models don’t know how to lead because they’ve never has a positive role model to look to.
There men are typically:
- Overly expressive
- Get defensive when verbally criticized
- Collapse under feminine energy or strong masculine energy
- Withdraw when feeing hurt
- Nervously fidget or tap his hands and feet
- Get unconsciously angry when being shamed
- Talk too much to fill awkward silence
- Try to initiate sex indirectly rather than asking for it
- People pleaser
- Get nervous around beautiful women
- Slouch while standing to sitting
- Withdraw in the face of his woman anger
- Move and speak rapidly
- Laziness and over value relaxation
- Surpress your emotions
- Fail to express or hold boundaries
- Be physically out of shape
- Unable to make a decision
- Afraid to speak the truth
- Ignored by others
- Have poor eye contact
Developing your masculine leadership involves you what is called maintaining your frame. The best to explain this is if you watch James Bond movies no matter what is going on, what pressure he is under 007 is alway clam, cool, and collected.
There men:
- Take charge
- Speaks confidently
- Moves dilberately
- Has a strong presents
- Natural posture
- Seems unswayed by others
- Has clear boundaries
- Not influenced by women emotions
- States what he wants
- Tells the truth, or at least does not lie
- Holds a steady gaze
- Steps up to lead in a group
- Speaks his truth
- Has a strong purpose in life
- Acknwledges his emotions
- Seems fearless
- Leads his woman sexually
- Attracts others to him
- Is listened to when he speaks
The first step is awareness, you cannot fix the mistakes you are making if you are unaware of them.
However, if you know you need to be more confident. You can act confident until the pressure is on.
When under stress you tend to revert back into what you know. In order to change you have to put on the new personality.
Children need a balance of a feminine, nurturing mother, and a masculine male role model if they are to be raised properly.
There are 2 personality traits that are the greatest predictors of wealth, heath, but also make you more attractive to women and give you greater odds of over all life happiness.
Some people are born with these traits because of their home life envirement. Where others like you and me have to develop them.
I was not raised with these traits I have had to cultivate them.
